Comments on: The Stevesbets Guide to Etiquette http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/ professional online poker player Mon, 03 May 2010 03:37:55 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Stef http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6893 Stef Fri, 06 Mar 2009 20:33:04 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6893 A man should always hold a door for a woman. period. A man should always hold a door for a woman. period.

]]> By: LEW http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6889 LEW Tue, 03 Mar 2009 21:52:08 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6889 I saw this and it reminded me of your post haha http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/etiquette/everyday-etiquette-public-place-10000001077597/index.html I saw this and it reminded me of your post haha

http://www.realsimple.com/work-life/etiquette/everyday-etiquette-public-place-10000001077597/index.html

]]> By: Seth http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6886 Seth Mon, 02 Mar 2009 04:54:15 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6886 Steve: You left out the two most basic rules of elevator etiquette: 1. If you can take the stairs between floors, use them instead of the elevator. I work on the 5th floor of a 7 story low rise building. Getting from the ground floor (1) to 5 takes forever because everyone who works on 2 takes the elevator to go up and down from the ground, and half the employees in the building ride the elevator between floors. And to add insult to injury, the stairwell is right next to the elevator bank. And it's a real stairwell -- not a fire tower. The building was built before elevators, so the stairwell was designed to be easily walked -- low grade and very wide. 2. Don't talk on your cell phone in an elevator. Steve:

You left out the two most basic rules of elevator etiquette:

1. If you can take the stairs between floors, use them instead of the elevator. I work on the 5th floor of a 7 story low rise building. Getting from the ground floor (1) to 5 takes forever because everyone who works on 2 takes the elevator to go up and down from the ground, and half the employees in the building ride the elevator between floors. And to add insult to injury, the stairwell is right next to the elevator bank. And it’s a real stairwell — not a fire tower. The building was built before elevators, so the stairwell was designed to be easily walked — low grade and very wide.

2. Don’t talk on your cell phone in an elevator.

]]> By: Ari http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6882 Ari Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:10:50 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6882 Nancy, a lot of women view your idea of etiquette to be patronizing and sexist. I agree with them. I still end up holding doors and offering to pay for dinner, because I like sex and most women still get hot and bothered by chivalry - but understand what's going on. Steve, I gotta disagree with your restaurant comment. Especially at fancier restaurants, you're not paying for the food, you're paying for the experience. If my girlfriend and I pay $150 for a meal, we'll sit there as long as we damn well please. Any waiter that tries to rush us out is going to regret it. While I agree with your movie theater comments, I don't think you have a right to get too upset. The only reason to watch a movie in a movie theater is to experience it with other people. If you want to be able to pretend that you're alone, rent a DVD. Now you can stream new movies to your computer before they're even out of theaters. Nancy, a lot of women view your idea of etiquette to be patronizing and sexist. I agree with them. I still end up holding doors and offering to pay for dinner, because I like sex and most women still get hot and bothered by chivalry – but understand what’s going on.

Steve, I gotta disagree with your restaurant comment. Especially at fancier restaurants, you’re not paying for the food, you’re paying for the experience. If my girlfriend and I pay $150 for a meal, we’ll sit there as long as we damn well please. Any waiter that tries to rush us out is going to regret it.

While I agree with your movie theater comments, I don’t think you have a right to get too upset. The only reason to watch a movie in a movie theater is to experience it with other people. If you want to be able to pretend that you’re alone, rent a DVD. Now you can stream new movies to your computer before they’re even out of theaters.

]]> By: newinnov http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6876 newinnov Tue, 24 Feb 2009 17:34:14 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6876 I find it quite amusing about all the consternation about gender bias in elevators. Agree with most of the rules. A friend of mine was in a nearly empty theater and had a couple sit right behind him and then started talking loudly. He spoke with the management and they removed the offenders. I especially agree that you should not hold up the elevator for most any reason except for the handicapped/blind individual. Women here in DC are generally aggressive and even if I am in the front part of the elevator to the right or left, when the elevator stops the women in the back expect you to stay put and will push their way out. That is why I hesitate for ½ second and then depart the elevator closest to the door first out. Wish there was a way for people not to loudly talk on their cell phone in a bus or metro when there are others around. I need to get a cell phone just to have a counter conversation when this happens. So rude. Disagree with Wally about the seats in a metro go to women when within 1-2 seconds. First come, first served with the only exception being elderly, handicapped individuals. Just because you are a woman you are entitled to a seat? Please. I find it quite amusing about all the consternation about gender bias in elevators.

Agree with most of the rules.

A friend of mine was in a nearly empty theater and had a couple sit right behind him and then started talking loudly. He spoke with the management and they removed the offenders.

I especially agree that you should not hold up the elevator for most any reason except for the handicapped/blind individual. Women here in DC are generally aggressive and even if I am in the front part of the elevator to the right or left, when the elevator stops the women in the back expect you to stay put and will push their way out. That is why I hesitate for ½ second and then depart the elevator closest to the door first out.

Wish there was a way for people not to loudly talk on their cell phone in a bus or metro when there are others around. I need to get a cell phone just to have a counter conversation when this happens. So rude.

Disagree with Wally about the seats in a metro go to women when within 1-2 seconds. First come, first served with the only exception being elderly, handicapped individuals. Just because you are a woman you are entitled to a seat? Please.

]]> By: Wally Patoniak http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6875 Wally Patoniak Tue, 24 Feb 2009 00:44:24 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6875 This is such an absurd discussion. Situation is key. In an elevator at an office or a department store you'll probably leave the elevator first and think nothing of it just like the woman who waits in turn to exit the elevator will also think nothing of it. But if you're at a college interview and the VP of admissions is a 50 yo woman you might make sure both to hold the door for her and let her out of the elevator first. Different situations call for different levels of manners. Sometimes its just not relevant and nobody's paying attention but you Nancy imo This is such an absurd discussion. Situation is key. In an elevator at an office or a department store you’ll probably leave the elevator first and think nothing of it just like the woman who waits in turn to exit the elevator will also think nothing of it. But if you’re at a college interview and the VP of admissions is a 50 yo woman you might make sure both to hold the door for her and let her out of the elevator first.

Different situations call for different levels of manners. Sometimes its just not relevant and nobody’s paying attention but you Nancy imo

]]> By: Mystery http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6874 Mystery Tue, 24 Feb 2009 00:38:17 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6874 My advice is to always open the door for a woman or let her out of the elevator first. Not because I am a particularly chivalrous person, but that way you have a better vantage point to check out her badonkadonk:-) My advice is to always open the door for a woman or let her out of the elevator first. Not because I am a particularly chivalrous person, but that way you have a better vantage point to check out her badonkadonk:-)

]]> By: Rich D http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6872 Rich D Mon, 23 Feb 2009 20:06:24 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6872 voting - letting someone walk out of an elevator- i see the similarity/relevance. oh well, to each his own opinion i suppose. anyway, GL with the poker. gonna have to take a break from your blog for a while. voting – letting someone walk out of an elevator- i see the similarity/relevance. oh well, to each his own opinion i suppose. anyway, GL with the poker. gonna have to take a break from your blog for a while.

]]> By: stevesbets http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6871 stevesbets Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:37:17 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6871 Rich I think you are taking this a bit too far, no one is saying to act like a brute, I'm simply saying if I am next to the door it is silly to step aside because of the gender or the other person/people in the elevator. You say my example of 7 people is self-serving and extreme. While it's true that it is an extreme example, I was making a point through hyperbole. Where do you draw the line. 5 men between the woman and the door? 3? The bottom line is efficiency outweighs ancient customs and there is nothing brutish about that. All of this dissent is making me wonder if you all would like to go back 100 years when women would surely be let off the elevator first but would not be allowed to vote. Rich I think you are taking this a bit too far, no one is saying to act like a brute, I’m simply saying if I am next to the door it is silly to step aside because of the gender or the other person/people in the elevator. You say my example of 7 people is self-serving and extreme. While it’s true that it is an extreme example, I was making a point through hyperbole. Where do you draw the line. 5 men between the woman and the door? 3? The bottom line is efficiency outweighs ancient customs and there is nothing brutish about that. All of this dissent is making me wonder if you all would like to go back 100 years when women would surely be let off the elevator first but would not be allowed to vote.

]]> By: Rich D http://www.stevesbets.com/117/the-stevesbets-guide-to-etiquette/comment-page-1/#comment-6870 Rich D Mon, 23 Feb 2009 19:34:07 +0000 http://www.stevesbets.com/?p=117#comment-6870 And from a practical level- the "inconvenience" of allowing a woman to leave the elevator before you, in said example, might delay you a maximum of 10 seconds. Maximum. And if you would claim that 10 seconds of your time is worth acting like a brute, I feel sorry for you. And from a practical level- the “inconvenience” of allowing a woman to leave the elevator before you, in said example, might delay you a maximum of 10 seconds. Maximum. And if you would claim that 10 seconds of your time is worth acting like a brute, I feel sorry for you.

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