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I’m in kind of a bad mood tonight so I’m going to write about something that really annoys me; people that just don’t understand/can’t follow ANYTHING. I find very little more uncomfortable than being at a movie with someone and feeling like they have no clue what is going on because they can’t or won’t pay attention. Another situation that is irritating is when two people are talking, for example a customer ordering food from a waitress, and I know that the order is going to be messed up because the customer doesn’t say it clearly enough, the waitress isn’t listening or some combination of the two.

Note that this has little to do with intelligence. Mainly it has to do with a person’s wiillingness to listen and try to understand, that is why it bothers me, not dumbness, just lack of effort. For example I have one friend who is a great guy by most standards but he hardly EVER listens to a word that is said. For that reason he is often left clueless in group conversations. Sometimes when speaking to him one on one it gets to the point where I could say something to the effect of, “my team ended up losing the game 4-2″ and he would instantly respond, “did you lose? by how much?”. Sadly that is not an exaggeration. Aside from not listening, they don’t absorb their surroundings or things that are embedded inside of the statements’ and body language of others.

The more depressing point here is that SO MANY of the people in this world are like this, (although for some reason its mostly men). They don’t have either the energy or the desire to pick up and analyze anything. I have some good friends who I could go out in a large group with, then after the fact they will remember everything that is said and done throughout the night out. These people are way easier to connect with because you can discuss a whole range of topics based on experience without them just responding, “who?” or “what” to everything. I’d go as far as saying that for people who don’t listen to or notice anything around them are only partially living, thats what makes them hard to connect to, they are only half human. Now everyone zones out sometimes, that’s not at all what I’m talking about, I’m talking about those for who its constant, it’s habitual.

I’m rereading what I have written so far and I am not quite sure I’m fully conveying the annoying trait that I’m speaking about. An example (this hasn’t happened to me, just making it up) would be if you’re on a double date with your girlfriend, then when you go home you say, “wow when he gave her that look after she talked about the dog, that seemed vicious, what do you think it meant”? If your girlfriend didn’t notice the look, didn’t remember hearing about the dog, and also had the same non reaction to various other parts of the night then she very well may be one of these people.

This whole blog is kind of preachy, I probably would never say it to anyone, but it’s my blog, I can write whatever I want and I’ve already wasted some time on it so I may as well post it.

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